Capture Your Grief, Day 7

Today's topic: What to Say

Fortunately, I have no shortage of material for this topic. Again, there's no photograph, just a record of lovely things people have said along the way. There is no possible way I will remember everything, but here is just a sample:

I am sorry.

Tell me about Weston.

How are you really doing? (And then actually listening!)

You are a good mother to both of your children.

I am praying for/thinking of you.

I have no idea what to say/I have no words.
~I actually really love this. It tells me you care, and it is the truth: there are NO WORDS that can erase my pain. Thank you for acknowledging the truth.

I can't imagine what you are going through.

I thought of Weston today when ________ happened.

Weston knows how much you love him.

Weston will always be with you.

Hug me or cry with me. Just be with me.

Weston has changed my life/inspired me/made me appreciate my loved ones more.

And, the best: Weston. Weston. Weston. Just say his name, talk about him, acknowledge him. His name is beautiful music to my ears.

I heard or read this quote somewhere (I wish I could remember and attribute it to the right person), and it is so true. Although the above words stand out in my mind, I don't necessarily remember who said what:

I might not remember what you did. I might not remember what you said. But I will remember how you made me feel.
~???

Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was.
~Job 2:13